softmmu/physmem: Don't use atomic operations in ram_block_discard_(disable|require)

softmmu/physmem: Don't use atomic operations in ram_block_discard_(disable|require)

We have users in migration context that don't hold the BQL (when
finishing migration). To prepare for further changes, use a dedicated mutex
instead of atomic operations. Keep using qatomic_read ("READ_ONCE") for the
functions that only extract the current state (e.g., used by
virtio-balloon), locking isn't necessary.

While at it, split up the counter into two variables to make it easier
to understand.

Suggested-by: Peter Xu <peterx@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Peter Xu <peterx@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Pankaj Gupta <pankaj.gupta@cloud.ionos.com>
Acked-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Cc: Paolo Bonzini <pbonzini@redhat.com>
Cc: "Michael S. Tsirkin" <mst@redhat.com>
Cc: Alex Williamson <alex.williamson@redhat.com>
Cc: Dr. David Alan Gilbert <dgilbert@redhat.com>
Cc: Igor Mammedov <imammedo@redhat.com>
Cc: Pankaj Gupta <pankaj.gupta.linux@gmail.com>
Cc: Peter Xu <peterx@redhat.com>
Cc: Auger Eric <eric.auger@redhat.com>
Cc: Wei Yang <richard.weiyang@linux.alibaba.com>
Cc: teawater <teawaterz@linux.alibaba.com>
Cc: Marek Kedzierski <mkedzier@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Hildenbrand <david@redhat.com>
Message-Id: <20210413095531.25603-11-david@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Eduardo Habkost <ehabkost@redhat.com>