virtio-mem: Prepare for device unplug support

virtio-mem: Prepare for device unplug support

In many cases, blindly unplugging a virtio-mem device is problematic. We
can only safely remove a device once:
* The guest is not expecting to be able to read unplugged memory
  (unplugged-inaccessible == on)
* The virtio-mem device does not have memory plugged (size == 0)
* The virtio-mem device does not have outstanding requests to the VM to
  plug memory (requested-size == 0)

So let's add a callback to the virtio-mem device class to check for that.
We'll wire-up virtio-mem-pci next.

Message-ID: <20230711153445.514112-7-david@redhat.com>
Tested-by: Mario Casquero <mcasquer@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: David Hildenbrand <david@redhat.com>