migration: enforce multifd and postcopy preempt to be set before incoming

migration: enforce multifd and postcopy preempt to be set before incoming

qemu_start_incoming_migration needs to check the number of multifd
channels or postcopy ram channels to configure the backlog parameter (i.e.
the maximum length to which the queue of pending connections for sockfd
may grow) of listen(). So enforce the usage of postcopy-preempt and
multifd as below:
- need to use "-incoming defer" on the destination; and
- set_capability and set_parameter need to be done before migrate_incoming

Otherwise, disable the use of the features and report error messages to
remind users to adjust the commands.

Signed-off-by: Wei Wang <wei.w.wang@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Peter Xu <peterx@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Juan Quintela <quintela@redhat.com>
Message-ID: <20230606101910.20456-2-wei.w.wang@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Juan Quintela <quintela@redhat.com>
Acked-by: Juan Quintela <quintela@redhat.com>